Living With BPD and Finding Healing Through Therapy

Since I was a child, I always felt that something was wrong with me. It was as if something was missing. I felt different, not normal, and often believed that everyone was against me. That deep sense of being misunderstood stayed with me for years until I finally received my diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) in 2016.

Struggles with relationships

One of the biggest challenges I faced with BPD was in relationships. I saw people in extremes, either all good or all bad. This black and white thinking made it very difficult to maintain healthy connections. I would lose patience quickly and sometimes ended up hurting people who truly cared about me.

One painful experience was when I told a therapist my diagnosis during our sixth session. Instead of support, they canceled all of my appointments without explanation. That silence felt like abandonment, something that cuts deeply for people with BPD.

What helped me heal

I am proud to say that I have been in full remission for the past four years. My healing came from a blend of therapies. EMDR helped me process trauma. DBT gave me practical skills to manage my emotions. Parts work allowed me to understand and integrate different aspects of myself. Somatic therapy helped me reconnect with my body.

This combination of therapies supported my growth and gave me the ability to regulate my emotions and build healthier relationships. Today I am in a loving and supportive relationship where I feel safe, and where I can also offer safety to my partner.

What people should know about BPD

I wish more people understood the psychological pain that comes with BPD. If the pain we experience internally could be seen as physical wounds, people would treat it very differently. Just because it is invisible does not mean it is not real.

Advice for those newly diagnosed

If you are newly diagnosed with BPD or you suspect you have symptoms, please avoid stigmatizing content online. It can make you feel worse and take away hope. Instead, speak to a therapist or someone you trust who can hold a safe space for you. You are not broken. You are living with something that has real solutions. Recovery and healing are possible.

A message to others with BPD

To my fellow BPD folks, I see you and I hear you. You are not alone. With therapy, support, and persistence, you can heal. It is possible to live a life where you feel safe, connected, and understood.